Aaron Chua
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おくりびと ～on record～ - 久石譲
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Fixing Relationship Checklist
Saturday, October 25, 2008, 2:45 PM
1) Determine what the problem or issue is.2) Attack the problem, not the person. Verbally
accusing the person you are in conflict with,
that does nothing to solve the problem and
often triggers an even bigger issue with him or her.
3) Avoid placing blame, verbally accusing, threatening,
making excuses, getting even, bringing up past,
incidents or refusing to take the blame if you know
you are in the wrong. Don't accuse by using the word 'YOU'.
4) Be sensitive. Listen to each other's point-of-views and give
each other time to talk. There are always 2 sides to every
conflicts & sometimes both of you may be right! It might
be very tempting to cut-in when they are expressing their
view, but holding back may let them feel like you respect them,
and lead to a quicker & easier resolution.
5) Consider each other;s feeling in the matter. Try to come up
with a solution that satisfies both of you. Don't say things
that might lead to another conflict!
6) Apologize if you need to & be sincere about it, or accept the
other person's apology if they offer it.
xoxo A
♥ xoxo A